Image by Morgan Klein, 2009
OACHIN MODALITIES
In a session with you, I integrate all of the techniques I’ve been trained in, seamlessly. It will simply feel like a very alive, engaging, and thought provoking conversation, in which you will emerge clearer than before, newly invigorated, and ready to do things differently.
However, you are welcome to request that we devote our session to specifically using one of the approaches below.
• euro Linguistic Programming
This is the bulk of my practice, and what leaders, executives, and entrepreneurs regularly seek me out for.
Receiving NLP is like having a conversation you’ve never had:
• you’re being asked questions you’ve never been asked;
• you’re having all your dots connected;
• you’re having a-ha moments regularly, and feeling some things along the way;
• you’re challenging premises you’ve taken for granted;
• you’re being invited into some challenging territories, and it feels okay to go there;
• you’re moving into the version of yourself you always knew was possible but didn’t know how to get there;
• your mind is actually becoming different!
I spent several years studying the cutting edge of Neuro Linguistics under the tutelage of Carl Buchheit PhD, a pioneer in the field with nearly fifty years experience. NLP started as a research project at UC Santa Cruz in the 1970’s, to study how language shapes our experience, and how you can change the way people experience things (from habits and phobias, to innate responses and stimuli, to relational patterns, to life itself) through the kinds of language you use with them. While the NLP most people know and use is formulaic, the way I practice is much more fluid and fun; I meet people where they, and their particular issue, are at, and work with them organically, drawing seamlessly from the entire toolbox, such that all you’re aware of is the deep connection you’re in with me, while things inside you are changing, effortlessly, and leaving you different than you were before.
• ypnotherapy
Probably the most known, and least understood, of the things I practice, hypnotherapy is the junction of trance and suggestibility. When most people think of hypnosis, they think of the stereotypes: the lavish shows, the ridiculous performances, the loss of control. The reality is different, and far subtler. First, you remain in control the entire time. I slowly guide and coax you into different states of mind; from there, it becomes easier for you to receive and incorporate the suggestions I make on your behalf. I was trained in taking people into very deep trances, in which you’re not quite asleep, not quite awake; but these days I rarely take people there unless requested. Rather, when you work with me, I will often take you in and out of micro trances throughout the conversation, helping you learn to practice distancing yourself from the states you’ve been stuck in, and beginning to enter, with greater ease and facility, the states you’d like to access more often. If you’d like traditional regression or trance hypnosis, you can request it, but otherwise, I use my hypnotherapy background in service of gracefully guiding your psyche to where you’d already like for it to be going, and the only thing you’ll notice is how easily you got there and how connected you felt.
• ircling
This is the most presence you’ll ever find in connection. Circling is a form of conversational mindfulness, and a style of listening and reflecting that grew out of a conflict mediation one night nearly thirty years ago. Circling has since evolved into a whole modality of its own, one that gives people the experience of being seen, felt, understood like never before, and ultimately deeply connected, to themselves and the person(s) with whom they share the space. Circling is different from other approaches in one very important way: when we Circle, I am not showing up to change you, in any way, at all. Circling is not meant for steering you towards the future, towards the bigger better brighter version of yourself; unlike NLP, Circling is for meeting and peeling back the layers of self showing up right now (and then right now…and then right now…). There is definitely a time for pointing you towards the new outcome, and clearing away your obstacles; and then, there is a time for being more fully with whatever’s showing up, as we stay in the moment together. This can be done either one-on-one, or in groups; in groups, we can choose between a Focus Circle (one person gets the whole group’s attention and focus for a set amount of time), or a Flow Circle (no longer strictly about one individual, we now cultivate and attune to the “we space” that we all share and co-create, following the threads of curiosity and aliveness as they emerge between the whole group, and as we negotiate the terms of engagement in real time together).
• amily & Systemic Constellations
These are necessarily done in groups. When you receive a constellation, I will organize a group (either of your own organization, or of highly skilled participants I can invite and count on) in which we will devote roughly 90-120 minutes to your quandary. You will either be physically present to observe, or we can document it and send to you.
Every Constellation solves a mystery:
• we start with a question;
• we create representations for the various people (or components) involved in the situation;
• each role is given to a person, who will then bring to life what is available to be seen and known;
• we let these components express and reveal themselves, and unravel;
• and sometimes we guide them in service of resolution.
The most esoteric and mysterious of my offerings, Constellations were created by the family-oriented psychotherapist Bert Hellinger in the 1970’s, after his time spent with Zulu tribes in Africa. He observed them regularly communing with their ancestors in search of healing and clarity; he then combined this with his understanding of how complex family systems work (what he famously referred to as the Orders of Love) to create a technique in which we uncover the hidden forces that drive people and situations.
While these are most known in service of family healing—and I definitely love and practice these too!—there is also great power and potential in using these in service of other dynamics, like organizational development, group transformational processes, and exploring major business decisions, like mergers and acquisitions. Systemic Constellations can be a very effective tool and intervention within organizations to facilitate group cohesion, and for bringing to light any hidden, murky components one must know and be aware of before committing to huge altering decisions.
ORKSHOPS & EVENTS
I LOVE working with groups and organizations.
Whether you’re looking for
• a one-time event for a couple hours;
• a weekend retreat;
• a several months, on-going container;
I can happily and easily create an event that’s perfect for what you’re seeking.
Possibilities include:
• Relational intelligence;
• Learning tools of more effective communication (Communication Dojo);
• Group strategy, brainstorming, idea formulating sessions;
• Feedback sessions;
• Working through your most complex conflicts, relational challenges and blockages, together;
• Team-building, fostering greater connectedness and camaraderie;
• Playing and having fun together in a way that’s growthful and strengthening
Let’s talk and formulate what’s right for you and your group.
OFFERINGS
• One on one:
30 min meet and greet introductory call: free
60 min standard session: $3000
90 min deep dive session: $4000
Couples session (90 min): $3500
All day session, we spend the day together from morning through evening: $15,000
Monthlong container, two 60 min sessions a week plus brief check-in’s: $20,000
Three month container: $50,000
• Private group facilitation:
Contact me for rates and details and negotiations